To make the ceremony even more meaningful, we both wanted to have a friend marry us. After going through a list of friends, we decided that Bridget would be the perfect candidate.
Bridget was my roommate at Loyola. We often go out on double dates with her and her husband, Andrew. As a lawyer and a former theatre major, Bridget has the perfect outgoing qualities that will make her a great officiant.
We had planned to ask her over a double date at Vong’s Thai Kitchen. However, as the night progressed, me and my FI were having such a good time that we forgot to ask! As our dear friends were giving us a ride home, we asked them in for a drink (and to “pop the question”!) Bridget declined as she was wiped out (being pregnant does that to you!!)
Finally, we asked her at Andrew’s 30th birthday party. When we told her that we had something to tell her, she blurted out, “You’re pregnant?!” Um, no. [^o)] She may have babies on the brain, I do not! She happily accepted!
We wanted to see if she could marry us since she is a lawyer. In Indiana, lawyers can get ordained for the day. Unfortunately, that is not the case in Illinois. Here’s the law:
CHAPTER 750. FAMILIES
ILLINOIS MARRIAGE AND DISSOLUTION OF MARRIAGE ACT
PART II. MARRIAGE
Sec. 209. Solemnization and Registration. (a) A marriage may be solemnized by a judge of a court of record, by a retired judge of a court of record, unless the retired judge was removed from office by the Judicial Inquiry Board, except that a retired judge shall not receive any compensation from the State, a county or any unit of local government in return for the solemnization of a marriage and there shall be no effect upon any pension benefits conferred by the Judges Retirement System of Illinois, by a judge of the Court of Claims, by a county clerk in counties having 2,000,000 or more inhabitants, by a public official whose powers include solemnization of marriages, or in accordance with the prescriptions of any religious denomination, Indian Nation or Tribe or Native Group, provided that when such prescriptions require an officiant, the officiant be in good standing with his religious denomination, Indian Nation or Tribe or Native Group. Either the person solemnizing the marriage, or, if no individual acting alone solemnized the marriage, both parties to the marriage, shall complete the marriage certificate form and forward it to the county clerk within 10 days after such marriage is solemnized.
Our back up plan was to get her ordained online. On a fluke, my fiance was ordained in college. While he’s never officiated a ceremony, we figured we would have her so the same thing. Here’s a link incase you are interested: http://www.themonastery.org/?destination=ordination