To Keep or Not To Keep?

Are you going to keep your maiden name?  It’s a big decision for every bride.  

I was adamant that I would keep my name. At 31, I felt that I had been “Misse Daniel” for way too long to become “Melissa Jacobs”.  I did consider using both names (hyphenating without the hyphenate) because I love the way our last names sound together.  That said, I opted to keep my name.  
I would more open to changing my name if the term “nee” was still around.  Nee?  It is a term used (pronounced “nay”) that was used to indicate a maiden name e.g. “Michelle Obama nee Robinson”.  I think it is a wonderful way to keep both names.  Plus, it could fit on a business card.  Here is a wiki post.

What do you think?

5 thoughts on “To Keep or Not To Keep?

  1. mk says:

    I was having a hard time parting with my last name as well! So I decided, since I don\’t have a middle name, to make my maiden name my middle name and take his last name. This way it won\’t be hyphenated but I can still keep my \”identity\” that I have had for so many years. I\’m not sure how common this is but I do think I\’ve seen a handful of ladies do this.


  2. ~M says:

    I kept my name, always knew I would (his mom did too). For our future kids, we are planning on using my last name as their middle names (yes, for all of them). We already have 2 boys\’ names and two girls\’ names picked out. I do kind of like the nee idea though.


  3. Jay says:

    I have a middle name, but like MK, I decided to incorporate my maiden name into my middle name and take my husband\’s last name for practical purposes (namely, children). That means I have four names, which seems like a lot, but I don\’t feel I\’ve been subsumed by my husband\’s identity.


  4. Anonymous says:

    I was certain that I\’d keep my name too and then he asked me to take his; said it was really important to him. I never realized he cared about it. I\’m taking his name.


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