Are you going to keep your maiden name? It’s a big decision for every bride.
I was adamant that I would keep my name. At 31, I felt that I had been “Misse Daniel” for way too long to become “Melissa Jacobs”. I did consider using both names (hyphenating without the hyphenate) because I love the way our last names sound together. That said, I opted to keep my name.
I would more open to changing my name if the term “nee” was still around. Nee? It is a term used (pronounced “nay”) that was used to indicate a maiden name e.g. “Michelle Obama nee Robinson”. I think it is a wonderful way to keep both names. Plus, it could fit on a business card. Here is a wiki post.
What do you think?
5 thoughts on “To Keep or Not To Keep?”
I was having a hard time parting with my last name as well! So I decided, since I don\’t have a middle name, to make my maiden name my middle name and take his last name. This way it won\’t be hyphenated but I can still keep my \”identity\” that I have had for so many years. I\’m not sure how common this is but I do think I\’ve seen a handful of ladies do this.
I kept my name, always knew I would (his mom did too). For our future kids, we are planning on using my last name as their middle names (yes, for all of them). We already have 2 boys\’ names and two girls\’ names picked out. I do kind of like the nee idea though.
I have a middle name, but like MK, I decided to incorporate my maiden name into my middle name and take my husband\’s last name for practical purposes (namely, children). That means I have four names, which seems like a lot, but I don\’t feel I\’ve been subsumed by my husband\’s identity.
Thanks for these awesome responses.What do you think about the term nee? Should it come back into everyday use?
I was certain that I\’d keep my name too and then he asked me to take his; said it was really important to him. I never realized he cared about it. I\’m taking his name.