White Wedding


Before getting married, I posted my thoughts of a guest wearing white at a wedding. And then, of course, I had a guest show up wearing white. I DID notice but didn’t say anything.


What would you do?

More importantly, would you ever wear white to a wedding?

Event Review: Anna Post at White Chicago

Last year, I met Peggy Post at White Chicago with my engaged friend, Nicole. The event was lovely and I was secretly pleased to have my book on etiquette autographed by her. This year, I was even more excited to attend the event as I am now engaged! I brought along my copy of Wedding Etiquette (a birthday gift) to be autographed by Anna Post, the great-granddaughter of Emily Post.

Anna gave a wonderful talk about the importance and place of etiquette. I was especially pleased because she talked about the difference between etiquette and tradition. There is a difference! There’s no reason to feel that you are “going against” etiquette by breaking with tradition. She stressed that etiquette is not to confine someone into doing something that they don’t want to be doing. Etiquette is founded on these 3 concepts:

  1. Consideration
  2. Respect
  3. Honesty

Anna recently published her first book, Wedding Parties. Anna also has a blog if you are interested!

Anna also talked about her great-grandmother, Emily. Emily was something of a rule breaker herself. Part of New York society, she divorced her husband and raised her two children on her own! A distinguished writer, Fungelwagnel approached her to update the etiquette book.

If you ever have questions about etiquette, feel free to contact the Emily Post Institute. Their website is terrible. However, they do encourage people to write in to ask questions. If you want something answered quickly, feel free to email me!

You are wearing WHAT?!


Etiquette is a touchy subject on the knot; well at least on my local board. I’m pretty much a devotee of Emily Post & frequently look for advice in her books.

Even if you aren’t as unyielding as me, most women wouldn’t even think twice about it. In fact, Greer from Faye & Greer completed discounted this dress because it only came in white.


The Editor of Martha Stewart’s Wedding, Darcy Miller, recently started a blog. One of her latest entries talked about her decision to wear white to a wedding! You can imagine my horror. I’m glad to see that I wasn’t the only one outraged. Check out the comments!



What would you do if a guest showed up wearing white to your wedding?